One of the greatest advantages of being Christian Counselors is being able to look at all situations through a lens of hope. Real hope. Early on, and all throughout our schooling, we were reminded of step number one, instill hope. Every single couple that comes through our doors or interacts with us in some form, will first and foremost be exposed to hope.
I will never forget one of our very first couples many years ago. They both had a history of abuse and trauma. They were dealing with addiction, pornography, adultery and severe anxiety and depression. Boy, we sure came out of the counseling gates swinging!
I remember this couple well, not because I was overwhelmed and concerned with how to help them. In fact, it was just the opposite. I remember getting excited that for the first time ever, I knew that they were about to be exposed to hope. And, it wasn't because they had it, it was because we did. Hope is the only thing that allows you to face challenges as tough as theirs head on, and we were prepared for it.
You see, we don't need couples to have hope when we start work with them. We have it. We believe it is our job to share our hope with you, and to keep standing in the gap holding onto it for as long as you need us to. Hope is like a torch that ignites, and we gladly hold ours up for as long as it takes to get yours lit. Why? Because we know that hope is real and that hope is alive. We know that HOPE is Christ, and that He is standing in the gap with us. He is who anchors us as counselors, and He is who anchors your marriage in the midst of the storm. So, even when that storm takes forever to pass, He can anchor it down for as long as needed. We trust that, and we ultimately want you to as well.
Whether you are struggling a little or have a suitcase packed by the door, your marriage is never hopeless. We fully believe that. We will always be people rooting FOR your marriage, and FOR you as individuals and as a couple. We do however understand that divorce still happens, and on the rare occasion we've had to support it. Because we also acknowledge that sometimes hope can mean a new beginning for someone who has been under abuse or has a partner unwilling to change unacceptable behaviors. However, by and large, we see restoration in even the most difficult of marriages.
As for that first couple, God honored our pleas, used our wisdom and training, and ultimately restored their marriage. He healed them both as individuals and as a married couple. This is the same God that made us all out of dust. He raised the dead, and He redeemed our lives with the precious blood of His Son. He can certainly heal your marriage, and we will fight long and hard for that. We've seen Him bring that healing way more often than not, but even when the healing doesn't come like desired, HOPE will always be first. We trust it, because we trust Him, now the question is, will you?
Fight to Enjoy the Journey!